Sex

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All your questions answered by Violet staff and board-certified OB/GYNs

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Can I get lubricant on the Violet website?

Yes! Lubricant is free through for anyone under the age of 26 living in Maryland. To order lubricant, you should use the Violet order...

Why do I not want to have sex, like ever?

This is probably because you are not in the mood for sex, which is totally fine. Not everybody has a strong sex drive, which is what we...

Why does it hurt when I get turned on?

Good question! Some pain when you feel turned on is normal and can be felt in a couple of places. Long story short, if you have female...

What do you do during sex?

We've received this question before (it's a very good question)! For more information, you can learn more about sexual decision making...

What do you actually do during sex?

There are many different things you can do during sex, and what sex is can be different for everyone. Very generally, you can think of...

Can I get pregnant the first time I have sex?

It is possible to get pregnant the first time you have sex if you do not use birth control (condoms, diaphragms, IUD, etc.) and you are...

When is the right time to have sex for the first time?

The right time is when you want to and feel comfortable about having sex. There is no checklist of requirements for knowing when is the...