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All your questions answered by Violet staff and board-certified OB/GYNs

If my partner pre-cummed in me, should I take Plan B or will it be fine?

While the chances are low, you are able to get pregnant with pre-cum. Pre-cum, or pre-ejaculate, is a normal part of being aroused for people with a penis. Pre-cum is not something that can be controlled and you may not even notice is there. However, it can contain a small amount of sperm, so there is a small risk of pregnancy. Because of this risk, that is why it is recommended to use a condom at all times during penetration for penis-in-vagina sex. If you are not using anot

I started taking OPill recently and now I bleed when I'm not on my period. Is that normal?

Yes, bleeding even when you are not on your period, also known as spotting, can be a completely normal symptom of OPill, and other birth control options. It may or may not go away over time, and can be a completely normal side effect of this medication. If you are bleeding when you are not on your period, we still recommend you talk with or visit your doctor to make sure that it is caused by OPill and not something else, like a sexually transmitted infection. Also, if this bl

Is it safe to have sex while pregnant? I am worried about the baby.

Generally, yes, it is safe to have sex while pregnant! The baby is protected by the amniotic fluid and the uterus muscles, so you will not be touching the baby or hurting it in any way. You can have sex while pregnant as long as you are comfortable! If you are worried, or have any complications with the pregnancy, please consult your doctor or OB/GYN and they can give you the best recommendations for you and your pregnancy. If you have more questions, you can also text/email

Why does a condom feel so weird?

Just like any new thing, condoms may feel "weird" at first. Like wearing glasses for the first time, they might feel a bit "weird" or disorienting, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't wear them! Condoms should feel snug so that they do not come off when you use them. However, if they are cutting off blood flow, or painfully tight, you could consider a larger condom size. Remember though, you want a snug fit so it does not slip off, and most people do not need a larger condom

How do I deal with being bullied at school for having a fishy smell from my vagina?

First, smells from your vagina or genitals are completely normal and may be because your vagina's pH balance changing, dehydration, sweat, sex, and other causes. This can be especially true as a teen. If it is a fishy odor, this may be a sign of bacterial vaginosis, which is super common and simply caused by an imbalance of the healthy bacteria in your vagina. The risk of this infection can be higher if you are having sex. If you have a fishy smell that is bothering you, we r

If I use both condoms and birth control, does it decrease my chance of pregnancy? Is it better than just one?

Yes, using both condoms and another form of birth control will further decrease your chance of pregnancy! There are many forms of contraceptives (e.g., pills, IUD, implant, hormonal vs non-hormonal). Many methods will prevent pregnancy around 99% of the time. Condoms have the added bonus of also preventing the spread of STIs (sexually transmitted infections)! Condoms are 97% effective at preventing pregnancy if used perfectly, or approximately 82% effective when factoring in

I am pregnant, and want to stay pregnant, but heard it can lead to lifelong health effects. Is this true?

Pregnancy is a natural, but large, change for your body that does increase stress on your body. It causes physical, hormonal, and other changes to your body that can have lasting effects on your body, including putting stress on your body that can have negative effects in the long-run. However, like stated, pregnancy is natural and your body is made to adapt to it. While it can have lasting impacts, like any major bodily change, it is a natural process for your body. To make

I want to have sex, but it feels like my vagina tightens every time and it hurts. Why is this? What can I do?

Vaginal tightness and pain during sex is common and can be caused by many things. First, make sure that you and your partner are both comfortable and relaxed, as stress can cause tightening or less pleasure. Also, foreplay or working on getting "turned on" more can cause your body to relax more during sex and decrease tightness. Using things like lube can also help with friction! Communication and comfort can be key to decreasing stress and increasing arousal to lessen vagina

Are the abortion pill and the morning after pill the same thing?

No, the morning after pill and the abortion pill are not the same thing. The morning after pill (e.g., Plan B), is a pill you take within 72 hours after having sex to PREVENT a pregnancy from happening. It is emergency birth control. It contains either levonorgestrel or ulipristal acetate to ensure a fertilized egg does not implant in the uterus. This prevents pregnancy from starting. The abortion pill is a pill you take AFTER getting pregnant. In the early stages of a pregna

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